You are in a relationship with someone and you notice things that just don’t seem quite right. Still, you stay with him because he’s so attractive or charming that you just can’t resist. Later on, you end up getting hurt when the relationship ends. You want to kick yourself for wasting so much time, effort and love on a guy like him. How can you stop yourself from getting hurt? Here are 5 things to watch out for in a relationship.
You’ve Never Been To His Place
You’ve been dating for months now and yet he’s never invited you over to his place. Every night, you seem to end up back at your apartment but never at his. This is definitely something to avoid.
Sure, there may be lots of reasons for his not wanting you to come and visit. Maybe he’s a closet slob. He dresses nice and his appearance is always flawless. But underneath, he is a slob who leaves empty pizza boxes lying around, clothes scattered everywhere and beer cans clutter his kitchen. Maybe he lives somewhere he thinks you wouldn’t like or he could even still be living at home. Okay, that last one may seem bad, since still living with his parents may mean he’s not ready for responsibilities – another bad sign. Then again, maybe he is a very responsible young man who is helping out his parents who can’t make it without his income. Or they may need him to live with them because they have gotten older and can’t take care of themselves. In this case, living at home would not only be forgivable but something that should be admired.
Try to suggest going to his place for once. If he blows you off or makes a lame excuse without disclosing any information, then you need to be suspicious. If he’s not fond of going out in public very often and when you do, he’s taking you to remote places, then chances are he is cheating on someone with you. You have become the other woman, whether you meant to or not.
Whatever the reason for him not letting you into his personal life, one thing is for sure – he’s hiding something. And when you are in a relationship with someone, you want them to be as open and honest as they can be. Otherwise, you can’t build the trust everyone wants to have in a relationship.
Giving You Too Much Information And Moving At The Speed Of Light
This man is the total opposite of the one who hides everything but just as deadly to a relationship. This type of man wants to tell you everything about his personal life. He wants to know everything about your life as well. He is clingy and wants to do everything with you. A man like this is usually afraid to be alone or he is looking to you to solve all of the problems in his life. He will want to rush into intimacy, maybe even marriage. Stop him in his tracks before it goes too far for both of you.
Badmouthing The Ex
Lots of women make the mistake of thinking that their boyfriend badmouthing their ex is a good sign. It means their relationship is totally over and there is no chance that they could get back together. After all, he hates her, right?
A man who constantly talks about his ex, pointing out all the negative things that happened in their relationship, is a man who refuses to take responsibility for his own actions. After all, a relationship is a two way street and there has never been a relationship where both partners didn’t screw up at one time or the other. Not only is he not taking responsibility for anything that he has done wrong but he is also showing that he holds a lot of anger inside. This is not a good sign at all and if you find yourself in this type of situation, you need to get out as quickly as possible. Either this man does not know how to get past his anger and move on or he is still in love with his ex and bitter. After all, you have heard the old saying “I think you doth protest too much”.
Mommy And Daddy Whipped
While most of us love our parents very much and have a tendency to take their advice, this type of guy carries this too far. He not only listens to their advice, he does everything they tell him to do. They are his only friends because they want it that way. This is a really bad situation from start to finish. If they don’t like you, he will probably end up breaking up with you anyway. And if they do like you and you happen to marry the guy, you are relegating yourself to being second in his life. What? You didn’t expect him to cut the apron strings immediately did you? Doesn’t work that way. He will never put you first and in a marriage, that can be a death toll.
He’s Just Broken Up With His Last Girlfriend
You meet a guy and you really like him. You both start to talk and he tells you that he just broke up with his girlfriend a few weeks ago. Then and there, you will know you are walking on eggshells. This relationship may work out, but at least 8 out of 10 times it doesn’t. Why? Surely you know the answer to that question. Unless you are some sort of princess, you have had at least one boyfriend break up with you instead of the other way around. Remember the heartache? The pain? How long it took you to get from crying at every love song to actually regaining a positive attitude and getting back into dating?
It takes a while to actually get over the pain of breaking up with someone before you enter into another relationship. He’s not going to have his full attention focused on you and chances are you are going to end up being a rebound gal.
Dating is a hard enough game to play without having the odds stacked against you. If you suspect any of these things, it is time to walk away from the relationship before you find yourself getting hurt.