Max advice for January 7, 2009
Dear President Elect Obama,
Max grew up as the son of a man who knew ‘ALL’ the answers to the problems of the world. Max’s father said so! Many times, his father let everyone know that anyone who didn’t know that he had the answers was a turkey or a knucklehead.
The famous Ma Bell, the second most powerful force in the world (next to God of course), thought so much of Max’s father’s opinions, that the made him ‘Supervisor of Troubles’. This is true!
The advice Max promised you, Mr. President Elect.
Apologize when you make a mistake!
There was nothing more unsettling about the Bush Presidency than him making statements and then sticking with them when it was clear they were wrong. Max understands that Presidents are people who live in isolation. They are only permitted so much access to ideas that are not from the people around them.
Still, Max suggests that the American people would like a president, who though certain of themselves, was more like we are. The American people make mistakes every day. Most of us find ourselves apologizing way too much; particularly the guys.
If you find, that you have said that you will never work with someone who the American people expect you to work with, just ‘fess up and say you spoke a bit too quickly. Better yet, say you acidentally got hit in the head by a basketball and weren’t thinking clearly. Jocks have that option; sometimes it’s even true.
Max believes that you will make mistakes in some of the people you choose to trust, in some of the actions you take and in some of the things you say.
One change Max thinks the people are looking forward to is a president who is big enough to say that they got something wrong and they are going to make amends.
This is not to suggest that you should go around apologizing for everything. You didn’t do everything so why should you get all the credit. Nor should you apologize for the things the country did before you got the call to serve. The people have elected a Congress to fall on the sword for past mistakes.
Max suspects that sometimes in the heat of political rethoric you may have said, or may find yourself saying, things that you wish you could take back. As a spouse, we understand you are aware that when you say the wrong thing you don’t get to take it back. With some things you say, an apology will not be enough. The president is married to the people and sometimes time and amends (chocolate is good) are all you can do. It is still important to say you made a mistake even when it will take time to be forgiven.
An apology should be a sincere acceptance of responsibility and regret. In the event you can be sincere you can always make your apology on the Daily Show. Since this is a fake news show no one will be sure if you are sincere or were just joking.
Max wishes you well in all your choice efforts.
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Link One is Plato’s Apology showing Socrates Defense.
Link Two provides ideas on apology with ‘How To’.
Link Three a dictionary definition of apology with examples.