There probably has been no greater hot button issue in our society over the past few decades or so than abortion.
The extreme conservative belief is that there is absolutely no reason to ever have or allow an abortion because it must have been God’s will for the woman to conceive. Many believe that abortion is murder.
The ultra liberal view is to allow abortions on demand. The reasoning is normally that it is a woman’s body, and thus, her right to choose at any time in the pregnancy.
There is also a vast array of more centrist viewpoints with stipulations attached.
People might be surprised at what The Bible says about abortion. There are countless cases in The Bible of what constitutes murder. In each and every case, the result is the “murderer” being put to death. But abortion is not one of them.
According to The King James Version, Exodus 21:22-25, “If men strive (fight), and hurt a woman with child so that her fruit (fetus) depart from her her, and yet no mischief (serious injury to the woman) follows, he shall be surely punished, according as the woman’s husband will lay upon him, and he shall pay as the judges determine. And if any mischief follows, then thou shalt give life for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot….”
Thus, it is clear that The Bible does not treat the death of a fetus as equal to the death of a person. Only some form of compensation is given for a miscarriage that occurs as a result of foul play. That is consistent with The Bible’s definition of life in Genesis 2:7: “…breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.”
Personally, I used to be a lot more pro-choice. Then, back around early September 1989, I learned that my girlfriend was pregnant. I had never had a child before. At first, I was in denial because I was not crazy about the relationship prior to that, and I was ready to break up with her. Then, my thoughts turned to abortion because I was pretty certain I did not want to spend any more time with this woman. At first, we decided she was going to have an abortion. Then, I thought that maybe she should follow through with the birth.
Finally, we came to an agreement that, like many “couples,” she would have the child and we would work out any details thereafter…from me having no responsibility at all for it…to us living together and seeing how things could work out.
Through this time, I was still very indecisive as a Libran can be. She is also a Libra! Then, I started getting a little more used to the idea. At one point, I learned through an ultrasound that my girlfriend was carrying a potential son. Around that time, she went into pre-mature labor….around the five-month point of the pregnancy.
All of a sudden, I knew I wanted her to give birth…at the proper time. I prayed long and hard that she would not lose this thing growing inside her. We rushed her to the hospital, and they stopped the labor.
As they say, the rest is history, and I thought of the Yiddish word “bashert,” which means meant to be.
I was definitely meant to have this son, who I ultimately named David because that is what my parents would have named one of my sisters had she been a boy.
Why am I personally against all forms of abortion except in cases where a woman is raped or a birth would put her own life in danger? What incredible and wonderful life experiences I have enjoyed since David’s birth in May of 1990! There was an immediate bond that has not lessened to this day.
Me being far maternal than my girlfriend, I was always the one who got up in the middle of the night to feed, burp and change David, and to rock him back to sleep.
All that was a labor of pure love to me, just as was taking David just about everywhere I went. I taught him right from wrong and personal responsibility. He never threw a tantrum or fit, and never carried on about wanting this toy, that toy, this grocery store item or that one. It was all a matter of being able to reason with him and to make clear to him what was truly important in life…loving, caring and quality time.
I even home schooled David from age four years four months to age 10, which will be the subject of my next story. We have gone on several vacations together. He recently graduated high school Summa Cum Laude, and is going to college free for his first two years.
Throughout this experience with me (I got rid of my girlfriend for good on October 27, 2001 as she was cheating on me with at least two other men), David has had no doubt how much he is loved and cared for, and he has been instilled with a great sense of self-esteem. We have never had an argument that has lasted more than a half minute or so, and life has been wonderful!
My point in all this is that a woman should choose wisely AND in most cases, get the father’s input, BEFORE deciding to get an abortion. If a child is loved from day one and treated as the major priority, there is NOTHING more rewarding in life than being a parent. David has easily been, and continues to be, my greatest joy in life!