I had written an article – as many of us have – on the topic of Nadya Suleman and her irresponsibility and obsession with children, to the point that she has given birth to a total of fourteen children. When I wrote the article, I used on filter on my unfettered rage and sense of moral outrage. (Unfortunately, perhaps, that lack of focus may have shown through in the completed article as well.) Nevertheless, I had something I felt I had to say, and say it I did. I was scrolling over my published article when a link on the left hand side of the page caught my attention: Looking to Adopt…
That’s when I ‘met’ a southern California couple named Nancy and Mike. I have no idea what their last name might be. I do, however, have a toll free number should I wish to contact them, plus the name of their ‘adoption counselor’, whom I assume to be an attorney handling their quest to adopt an infant.
Their web site was fascinating.
Nancy and Mike appear to be in their early to mid 40’s, although it’s hard to tell. They were married in 1999, and made a beautiful couple that day, thanks to the wedding photo that they included on their “About Us” web page. Nancy is, frankly, rather average looking, although she does have a bit of a prominent nose; that I noticed about her right away – that and the smile that seems so unforced, so natural, one that she wears in each and every photo on their multi-page adoption web site. She’s pictured with their son Skyler, who has, according to their site, recently entered kindergarten, thus freeing her, as a “stay at home mom” to spend all of her time with the newborn that they hope to adopt. She’s pictured playing with Skyler, including tossing a baseball and honing his batting skills; there she is again, decorating cupcakes with her son and introducing him to the (smiling) joys of frosting. But it was Nancy’s personal information section that I found really intriguing.
Nancy gave up a career as a civil rights attorney to be a ‘stay at home mom’. She does, however, continue her political activism, and hopes to instill a sense of community service to her children. How cool is that?
And Mike? Gorgeous, thick, wavy, prematurely gray hair and piercing blue eyes: the sun-kissed California boy. They’ve even included a photo of Mike as a three year old; he, too, is smiling in that – and every other – photo on their site. Mike, it turns out, is involved in the software industry. He enjoys windsurfing and water sports when he’s not enjoying hands-on time with Skyler and, hopefully, Nancy.
Even little Skyler has a page dedicated to his relatively young life. His favorite food? “Pasta, pasta”.
The site doesn’t mention if Skyler was also adopted. After reading so much of their personal information, I’m laying 99% odds that he probably was, although he does look a wee bit like Nancy. He, too, has a cute, toothy grin in every photo. It’s almost painfully obvious that Mike and Nancy adore this little boy, and would lay their respective lives down for him in a heart beat.
Well-educated, physically attractive parents living the good life in sunny southern California, the three of them playing on the beach together. Isn’t this what every parent may dream of for their child? I wondered momentarily if they’d be interested in adopting me. Would a nanny or ‘granny’ be of interest to Mike and Nance?
Their personal story was laid out so plaintively, so openly, in their quest to adopt a child and add to their “family of three”. It was difficult for me to turn away from their web site, so fascinating was the portrait that they painted of their lives – past and present – together, and separately.
When I went back to this article to find out more about Nancy and Mike, I was shocked and somewhat dismayed: their link on my page was gone! In its place? Yet ANOTHER advertisement by a very wholesome family who also were looking, hoping, praying to adopt a baby. Will Nancy and Mike – and Skyler, too – be back on my pages?
The morale of this article? First of all, do click on the advertiser’s links on your articles’ pages. You’ll never know what – or who – you’ll ‘meet’ via the web. These are advertisers, companies and individuals who are stakeholders in your content. Secondly, the plight of Nancy – and Mike – and Skyler – further strengthened my resolve that the children of Octo Mom deserve a good, loving home – just not with her. There are people out there who would do anything to have a child of their own, even if it’s your child.