Do you find yourself going around and around in the same type of relationships with men? You keep choosing the same kind of man, that bad boy. You know the ones who seem irresistible, but always lead to heartache and pain? They never seem to care about you and what you want. The focus is always on what’s best for them, and they have a way of stringing you along to get what they want. Some women with age grow out of this attraction, but some never seem too. We then find themselves excited to only be upset and let down once again. We continue to date the same type of guy and be surprised at the end of the relationship, and think that love has done us wrong again, and that all men are dogs. Why do we continue to choose what we know isn’t good for us? We’ve been through it, we’ve seen our girlfriends experience the same pain, but we keep on returning, why ladies, why?
We as women date bad boys because they are exciting and interesting and they provide a chance for us to be needed. Everyone wants to be needed right? The flip side of it is that the women rarely gets what she needs. The drama from these relationships, help to avoid the real issues of commitment. Their are commitment issues with both parties when these type of relationships continue to exist. Ladies if you find yourself continuously going back to this type of relationship, you need to stop and ask your self, “What is my real problem”, “why do I allow this?” Somewhere deep inside their must be issues of insecurity and possibly low self esteem to continue to participate in this cycle of dating. You deserve better, and you have to demand better to get it. Their is nothing wrong with being helpful, or an asset to a relationship, but you shouldn’t have to perform the duty of “holding” someone else up, to in return get love and affection. The man you are dating needs to respect you for who and what you are, not just for how you boost his little ego. Men it is time to grow up. Good relationships only work when two mature people, being unselfish come together. Ladies if he can’t look beyond his self to see that you have needs, and bring value to the relationship in other ways then you don’t need him. Move on, next you deserve better, but only you can determine what better for you is.
If your relationships with “good” guys seem boring, take the effort and spice things up. You make life, and your relationships what they are, stop taking the easy, hurtful way out…kick that bad boy to the curb.