Your teen daughter will sometimes seem like your best friend, and others like someone possessed and your looking to make the next Exorcist movie. Take your time through these years, be sure to analyze your rules and beliefs and start letting her be who she is, and not what you want her to be.
When should I let my daughter do things alone, with friends?
Each person is an individual, and this should be practiced with each child you have. Some teenage girls are ready to be independent before others. Make sure that your daughter is mature enough to handle real stranger situations, angry friends and any other problems that might occur while she is out on her own. If she can’t answer important “what are you going to do..” questions, she isn’t ready.
Should I trust my daughter?
95%. This is a perfect number, because yes, you should trust her, but never 100%. Eventually she will test you, and that 5% will be how much you prepared for her to disobey or rebel. Trust and love are two different things, remember you are a parent and it’s your job to expect what is inevitable.
How do I know if my daughter is in to trouble or not?
Girls usually act guilty, if they are. If she starts spatting off about privacy and ruining her life, when you ask simple questions, then she has probably done something she wasn’t supposed to do.
Should I worry about how my daughter dresses?
Really? I thought we were past this. No. If she isn’t half naked, then let her be who she is. She will calm down, but a teen girl needs to express her style. There isn’t any harm in letting her, just think what she will dress like at your age, if you don’t let her do it now!
Should I worry about hair color and piercings?
Nope. If you have a huge problem with it, they will usually do it anyway, so get over your issues. Do temporary or compromise on certain piercings or jewelry, but let them do it or they will find a way to get it done. My daughter pierced her lip in the bathroom, in the middle of the night, because it took me too long to take her to a professional. It’s who they are, enjoy it, don’t battle it.
When should I let my daughter date?
Have specific and blunt rules on dating boys (or girls). This is where you become an adult and don’t giggle about sex talk. Let her know exactly, and I mean exactly what she can and can not do, period. Expect her to respect you, or she will loose the boy (or girl). Don’t put aside the fact that your daughter might experiment with other girls, so have that talk too.
When should I have the sex talk with my daughter?
If she’s a teenager, you are very late. You have some catching up to do. I say it’s when puberty is starting (that isn’t when she get’s her period, it’s before). Do not talk to her like you don’t know what you’re talking about, and don’t say too much about your experiences, she will get sick. Tell her everything, and I mean everything. She needs to know about the good, the bad and how to protect herself. Don’t expect all men or boys to know how to use a condom, so she better!
But I’m her dad………….
If you just can’t do it, because you are male, find a woman to teach you what to say. You have to do it, it’s your job. I talk to my son about sex all of the time, and body parts, etc. I have no clue what I am doing, but he chooses to talk to his mom, and not his dad. This makes it my job to educate him about dating, sex and social correctness. If you are all she has, then make it work, even if it’s yucky.