1. Be careful how you discipline your child!
Make sure that you are always calm and collected when disciplining your child. This will show him/her how they need to behave when they are upset. He/She will also listen to you better and try harder to understand you. If you aggressively lash out at your child this will give them a feeling of agression and sadness that will be overwhelming for them so they will then act in uncontrollable ways.
2. Are we doing what we said we would do?
When you told Jimmy that he wasn’t getting a snack if he didn’t pick up his toys, did you give it to him anyway? What about when you told Sarah you would take her to the movies last Saturday, then something came up, did you still take her anyway? Yes, sometimes unfortunate things happen and we don’t keep our end of the bargain, but for the most part(99% of the time), we need to hold true to what we say. Its better to “not say it all” then “say it and not do it”! This behaviour even though seems small will make a big impact in our childs life. From helping them to be responsible, even when they get older, to following through themselves with projects they start.
3. Are you showing your love and affection to your child?
This feeling of love and care, no matter what your child does, will give him a sense of security that will carry with him even when he/she gets older. A sense of security is important in a child and adults life. It will enable them to feel confident to do things on their own without emotional distraught. This will also help him/her to get along with others and easily show love and kindness to them as well.
4. Praise him/her for doing good things. Such as:
– A simple, “Good Job!” will work wonders.
– “Way to Go!”
– My favorite is “Wow, I’m so happy, you done so Good!” (This will even boost them more to do good things for you because children love to make their parents or guardians happy)
– “I am so proud of you.”
Make sure you are talking to others about how good your child is and not how bad. These sayings are “Power Boosters” for your child. They will work harder at doing the things you are praising them for, so you will do it again. It will also boost their self-esteem and self-confidence.
5. Don’t bash your child when they make mistakes.
A lot of times when our child makes mistakes we want to say, “What is wrong with you?”, “I can’t believe you done that!”, “You are such a trouble-maker.”, “You are always….. ‘then something negative’.” These things instantly come out of our mouth for the most part because, it was what we heard growing up, or we heard others talk like that to their child. This is not good behavior and can be extremely hurtful to our child(whether they show it or not). It will cause extremely low self-love and self-confidence. It will also impact a child’s learning as they will feel they are ‘to stupid’ to learn. They will treat others this way as well.
BONUS TIP: Actions will give a big impact on your child’s behavior.
If your child is in an abusive home, you are letting your child hang out with negative, misbehaved children, or whatever behavior you are allowing into your kids life will strongly impact them. Your child will behave how they see you or others that they are around. So please be kind and courteous with others while around your child, don’t show your problems to them, and let your child hang out with well-mannered, good children. Lets teach our children how to be good, well-mannered, well-behaved, and most of all be able to show love and kindness.
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