Break-ups can be very hard for just about anyone to cope with. Teens tend to have a very difficult time handling them, however. It can be even more difficult for parents to watch their teens have their heart broken. Whether it’s your teenage daughter’s “first love” or just a fling that she is having a hard time coping with, it’s important to be a very supportive parent during this time. Remember that everyone has their own way of coping with hard situations, but here are some tips on how to help your teenage daughter recover from a break-up.
Abide by Your Daughter’s Wishes
Keep in mind that this is a very hard time for your daughter. It’s in your best interest to abide by her wishes. If your daughter wants to cry, then hand her a box of tissues. If she wants to spend time with you, then make time for her. If she wants to be left alone, then leave her alone. No matter what it is that your daughter wants, it’s a good idea to find out beforehand because the situation will be very uncomfortable for all involved if you make assumptions about how you think that she should act.
Encourage Her to Spend Time With Friends
Keep in mind that teenagers can only handle so much time with their parents. They also need to spend time with friends because, well … they are teens after all! This is why it’s important to encourage your teenage daughter to spend time with her friends. If you think that she may reject the offer, it’s a good idea to consider inviting the friends over yourself without letting her know, and making them promise not to tell her that it was your own doing. Sometimes, broken hearted teens need nothing more than to have a sleepover with a bunch of friends who will offer them their support.
Pamper Your Teen Daughter For the Day
Pampering your teenage daughter is one of the best ways to help her recover from a break-up. If you know that there is a movie that your teen has been wanting to see or something else that she has wanted to do, then why not take her to it? Or perhaps she would rather go to the spa for a manicure and pedicure, a water park, the beach, a zoo, or even out for ice cream. Whether you decide to make it a mother-daughter event or something that the whole family can enjoy, it will help show her that there are people who care about her and that she is not in this alone.
Tell Her About One of Your Break-Ups
As a parent, you may get the feeling that your teenager doesn’t really want to be bothered with your experiences. If you have any experiences which may be similar to the break-up that she is currently going through, be sure to tell her about it. While you may not realize it, personal experiences will help your teenage daughter cope with her break-up better because she will realize that if you were able to get through it, there’s still hope for her as well.
Don’t Try to Set Her Up With a New Boy
When your teenage daughter has just gone through a hard break-up, she does not care that your co-workers’ son really needs a date for prom or that the cute boy at the supermarket is such a nice fellow. If you try to force any other boys on her, your daughter is going to get mad at you. The reason? She will make the assumption that you never liked her boyfriend and that you want to see her happy with someone else so that there’s no chance of them getting back together. Your teenage daughter is bound to meet someone on her own time, so avoid butting into the situation. Keep in mind that it’s also a bad idea to hold a grudge.
For most parents, it can seem very difficult to help a broken hearted teen cope with her loss. It doesn’t need to be, however. If you follow all of the above mentioned tips, this time will go a whole lot smoother for both you and your teenage daughter.