When you were a child your mother probably told you honesty is the best policy. Whenever you told the truth you didn’t think it was the best policy judging by the punishment you received for whatever you did. That is how we got to where we are today, surrounded by and maybe even being a fibber. You can call it being politically correct, say you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, or just say you tell people what they want to hear regardless of whether you do what you say.
The lies you tell aren’t going to hurt anyone. They are just little white lies. You tell your wife she looks great in those pants that are four sizes too small. You know as soon as she sits down they will split, but you don’t need to tell her that because you don’t want to hurt her feelings. The neighbors are having a birthday party for their one year old. They ask if you will be there. You tell them you wouldn’t miss it. All the while you are thinking what the heck do I want to go to that brat’s party for with other bratty children? Your cousin’s neighbor is helping their child’s school with a fundraiser and you say you want the candle they are selling. Meanwhile, you have no intention on paying $15 for a candle you can get for $2 at a store. You know they won’t order it for you because you have to pay for it first and you tell them you will mail them the check.
All of these are little white lies that shouldn’t hurt anyone. You don’t mean any harm by anything you have said you just don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. You have just hurt more people by trying not to hurt their feelings than if you had answered honestly or at least a little honestly.
Your wife went to the store with her snotty friends that she tries to impress. After walking the mall they sat to sip a latte. As she bent her pants split which caused her more embarrassment than any man could imagine. First there was that awful noise that all the children turn and laugh at, and then there was the realization that she had a big hole in her pants that she couldn’t cover up. There was no end to the agony. Not to mention she wouldn’t be able to go anywhere with those friends again and she certainly can’t show her face at the mall any time soon.
Guess what happened at your neighbor’s birthday party for their child? The parents ordered too much food and had a lot of leftovers because the people that said they would be there didn’t show up. Now the parents have enough extra food for three weeks. If they want to eat leftovers for three straight weeks. The parents are also angry because they spent a lot of money that they didn’t need to so chances are really good they won’t be talking to you for awhile but they will probably be talking about you.
Your cousin’s neighbor is expecting to receive a check any day now for the candle. Guess what they never receive it. Had you just told them no thank-you they wouldn’t be expecting you to purchase a candle. They go as far as to call and leave a message they will not order the candle since they didn’t receive your check. This was done so you aren’t surprised there isn’t a candle and if you did mail a check you need to put a stop payment on it. You should have just told them the truth. You really diminished their trust in you.
This is just a reminder for everyone who promises to do something and never follows through that people will lose their trust in you. You want to be everyone’s friend so don’t tell people what they want to hear. They usually want to hear the truth, because your actions or inactions will tell them everything they need to know about you!
This reminder that honesty is the best policy was written because I had someone say they are going to fix my refrigerator. I already had chicken go bad in my refrigerator now Thanksgiving is approaching and I can’t buy a turkey until the problem is fixed. The repairman was supposed to fix it last week. He was on his way yesterday. Since I live in Alabama, I guess he’s coming from Texas. If he doesn’t show up today he will be coming from California!