My friend had suggested this article topic to me. I am no expert on being a good friend, but I decided to write down what I know. Here are some of the ways I do my best to be a good friend. I hope this content is helpful to everyone who reads it. Please keep in mind I am a man (woman) like everyone else, that means I make mistakes.
The first thing I want to put in this article is to never lie. A honest answer is like a kiss on the lips. If your friend asks you if they look good. You want to tell them the truth. What if you say you look good, when they look bad. This lie was told to protect their feelings, but because your friend really does not look good, they will find out the hard way. This hurts them far worse if you had told them the truth.
Something that makes a lot of good friends is being forgiving of one another. When your friend says I am sorry, then forgive them. If they come to you and say I am sorry, and it is over the same offense throughout the same day, then forgive them. Sometimes the same mistake can happen over and over again. Do not tell your friend, “I will never forgive you if you…” It is hateful to be unforgiving.
Do not steal from your friends. Stealing makes you a bad friend. And that goes with someone stealing from you, it makes them a bad friend. Taking objects or things from your friend is an obvious form of stealing. But there is another kind that might not be so obvious. Taking credit for your friends ideas, or your friends work. If the great suggestion or solution to a problem was not yours, then proper credit needs to be given. Like this article for example. I am the one writing it, but my friend is the one who gave me the topic. The topic was her idea.
On the same topic about not stealing, I want to give more forms of stealing. When your friend lets your borrow something of theirs. Do not let anyone else borrow it. The only condition is when the friend you borrowed it from says to do it, and personally. Never sell it at any price. Lets say your friend let you borrow a $10.00 item to use. Someone comes along and offers you $100.00 for it. Do not sell it, because it does not belong to you. Sure your friend might be more than happy to get $100.00 for that $10.00 item. And sure you can purchase 10 more of the same item for that $100.00. Because the item does not belong to you, if you sold it you would be like stealing it. The only person with the rights to sell the item is the owner. You could be surprised, your friend would be upset because you sold it.
Let your friend talk to you. Be someone trusting, when your friend talks to you about something, keep that to yourself. People love to have someone they can talk to without giving out those secrets for everyone to know. When your friend talks to you about some private matter, keep that a secret. This goes the other way around to. People stop trusting when they always talk to you about private things, and you never talk about anything yourself. Sure nothing like that might not be happening in your life, but maybe something in the past. Something to establish a connection of trust.
Stay faithful to your friend. Do not steal from them, always try to be honest about everything. Forgive their offenses against you, or when they have done something wrong. Apologize and seek forgiveness for your offenses. Keep those secret things secret, and share your own things. Do your best to keep those meetings and dates with your friends. You do not want your friend waiting for you, and you never show. Sometimes you can miss the time or not be able to keep the meeting at all. We never know when God has another plan for us.
We are not all the same, and everyone of us is different. What works for me and my friends might not work on your side. The best thing is to be who you are. I am sure we have heard and heard that phrase. What I think it means, is to not lie. One last advice that has helped me be a good friend. Depending on what the matter is, I have had to make changes. Certain things should not change, but other things should.