It can be hard to decide whether to work or stay home with your newborn. Here are some tips on how to decide:
Assess your financial situation– if you make the most money out of you and your spouse then it might not be in your best interest to be a stay at home parent. You need to assess how much money is needed to run your household and if you can survive financially on just one income.
Ask your boss if you can telecommute or work part time– it can be hard to lose an income. You should ask your boss if it is possible for you to telecommute or come into work part time so you can stay home with your newborn baby.
Ask yourself if you can take being home all day long– many parents go stir crazy when they are home with a newborn baby all day long. You feel trapped and bored because you are not around adults all day long anymore.
Ask yourself if you will lose your identity– many women feel like they are less respected by working moms if they are stay at home moms. You are no longer an employee; you are a full time mom. Many women feel bad about themselves but they shouldn’t feel that way.
` Talk to your spouse– you need to discuss this issue with your spouse. If your spouse will hold a grudge against you for staying at home full time then you need to know this ahead of time. You do not want to do anything that would cause hurt feelings or a rift in your relationship. Both parents need to be involved in this decision so that there can be unity and understanding.
Talk to other parents who have decided to stay home full time– you need to understand how other stay at home parents feel. You can learn a lot about what your situation will be like by talking to other parents who deal with this day in and day out. You can also get tips on how to deal with transitioning from a working parent to a parent that stays at home full time.
Parents have had to decide whether or not to be working parents or parents that stay at home full time for many years. Women especially find this decision a hard one to have to deal with. Before the 1950’s most women were stay at home mothers. Now, because of economic issues many families need two incomes in order to survive. This has forced many women to have to work even though they want to stay at home and care for their children. When making this decision, you have to weigh all of the options that are available to you and then make a decision that you and your spouse can live with.