A teenage girl’s first date is an important first step on the journey to adulthood. While parents may not feel ready to face this new and significant part of their daughter’s life, the teenage girl has certainly been waiting patiently for this day to arrive. She may feel very ready and excited that a new world is opening up for her, but it is unlikely that she has given much thought to the deeper meaning and potential consequences of dating. This article will offer parents some advice on how to adequately prepare their teenage daughter before sending them out the door on their first date.
Have A Conversation About Respect. Teenage girls who are beginning to date must set the standard for how they expect to be treated right from the start. Though it may appear old fashioned and out of style, the truth is that respect never goes out of style. Boys should be expected to come to the door and meet you before taking your daughter out for the afternoon or evening. They must respect her enough to bring her home on time and be honest and forthcoming about what the plans for the date are. Let your daughter know that treating her respectfully means respecting her parent’s wishes and not placing her in any unsafe situations. She may feel that these requirements will put off the “Cool” boys she wants to date, but she will certainly thank you later on for encouraging her to demand respect from the boys she dates. Talk to her about modesty and respecting her own body so that others will follow her lead. This may be a difficult conversation to start, but if your teen daughter is ready to date, you must be ready to have this conversation.
Be Sure She Can Get In Touch With You If An Emergency Arises. If your daughter does not already have a cell phone, now would certainly be the time to get her one. Your teen daughter should be able to easily contact you if a situation arises that she does not know how to handle and needs you to pick her up or offer some private advice.
Have An Honest Discussion About Alcohol And Recreational Drug Use. Teenagers may not give any indication during school hours that they frequently indulge in alcohol or drugs on the weekends, and your daughter may be genuinely shocked and surprised when the boy she is on a date with pulls out a six pack or marijuana. Be sure your daughter is well educated on the dangers of drugs and alcohol and what the consequences are if she herself indulges. Let your daughter know that she should never under any circumstances get into a car with someone who is under the influence and that she can always call you for a ride home with no negative repercussions.
Help Your Daughter To Relax And Keep The Situation In Perspective. Teenage girls going off on their first date can be a bundle of nerves. They may worry that spilling soda down the front of their shirt is the end of the world or that this boy is definitely the one they are going to marry and spend the rest of their life with. Share your own memories of your first date and assure her that this is one date and one boy and that she has many years ahead of her to find the one she will settle down with. Encourage her to relax and have fun and keep this night in her heart as a lovely memory that she will one day cherish….even if she does spill soda down the front of her shirt!