We’ve all heard the saying, “Actions speak louder than words”. It’s true. We can say things to people and mean one thing while acting out the opposite. For example, “I love you”. We say it and then we’re impatient, short, curt, and hurtful when it comes to how we act it out, especially to those we say matter most to us. Here are a few suggestions on how to say ‘I love you’, without saying anything at all.
Breakfast in bed. It doesn’t have to be elegant. How about just a fresh cut flower and a cinnamon roll? It is, after all, the thought that counts. Let your spouse be the one who sleeps in late for a change and pamper him or her with a surprise breakfast in bed.
Pouring one cup of coffee? Why not make it two? Don’t ask, just do it and if they don’t want it, that’s their decision. You’ve just shown, however, that you’re thinking about them.
Leave a note tucked under their pillow with one sentence of something you admire about them.
If your partmer usually does the laundry, surprise them and throw a load in and not only finish the process but put the clean, folded clothes away.
Picking up after yourself speaks volumes. It says that you consider the worth of your spouse to be more than your personal maid.
Do your own dishes, at least. Most homes have dishwashers and yet, I’ve seen countless kitchen sinks full of dirty dishes that have sat for days. Who is waiting for who to take care of it?
Do that one chore this week that your partner despises. Is it scrubbing the toilet? Taking out the trash? Mowing? Ironing? Roll up your sleeves and go for it.
Fill your spouses car with gas for the next morning. Often times we run out of gas because we’re so busy running here and there that by the times we’re almost home, the guage is spattering ’empty’ and we just don’t feel like turning around and going back.
You get all spiffied up for the office – why not your special someone… just because? It says that you care how you look for them and not everyone else. Comb the hair, get showered, put on some aftershave (or perfume, as they case may be). Good hygiene is attractive.
Lose some weight. To keep it off, you need to do it for yourself but many of us could stand a few pounds so that we are our best for our loved ones. It says we care not only for them but for ourselves, enough to live a healthy life and be able to spend a longer lifetime with them.
Wash and vacuum your parner’s car. If you don’t like fragrant scents inside the car but they do, put one in this time just for him/her. It says, “You come first”.
Do you have kids? Whether your the husband or the wife, get a sitter and take your spouse out. Make it their night. Their favorite restaurant or a movie they’ve wanted to see.
Spend the day looking for the best in your partner and commenting on those things, choosing to not point out the negative. For every seven praises, it only takes one condemnation to erase them all and cause a person to feel like a failure. Make your partner feel like a winner and point out the positive.
Is there a project unfinished or that you’ve been dragging your feet over? Why not quietly get back to it and get ‘er done!
Pack a light picnic (crackers, cheese, fruit, drinks) and take a ride to their favorite ‘spot’. Top of the hill, down by the beach, etc. I once witnessed a young woman arrive about ten minutes before her husband down by the lake we lived by and she covered the table along the pathway with a linen table cloth, wine glass, real plates, flatware and they celebrated his birthday right there. It was beautiful and she went to a lot of preparation to make it so nice.
That’s the thing about telling someone you love them without saying anything – you spend a lot of time thinking about them as you think about what you’re doing (or going to do) for them. Have fun and come up with some of your own. Someone will love you for it.