It is not easy to improve a romantic relationship. A good romantic relationship takes work from both people. However, even if the other person does nothing to improve it, your romantic relationship can improve by taking initiative on your own. Putting some work into your romantic relationship always pays off.
Make your expectations clear.
Sit down with your significant other. Let them know your expectations. Encourage them to do the same. If nobody knows what the other person wants, or thinks, or feels, this relationship is going nowhere. Improve communication by taking care not to accuse or blame. Just state the facts.
For example: “It makes me really uncomfortable when your friend, Joe flirts with me. Please ask him to be more respectful. I’d really appreciate it. Standing up to him would show me you value our relationship.”
It may be that your partner wasn’t even aware there was a problem. Speak up and be heard without being offensive. Things will improve without those shouting matches.
Give trust and respect always.
When a person is trusted and respected they’re more likely to be trustworthy. Make it clear that the love of your life is trusted. Reinforce this through positive statements such as, “Some women might feel threatened by boys night out, but I never worry. I know you’d never do anything to hurt me. I can go shopping with the girls or stay home and relax knowing you won’t give in to temptation like some guys.” Even the most faithful people need to know they are trusted and respected. It’s nice to have someone else appreciate your good character.
Maintain consistency and stability.
People become insecure when they can’t count on their partner to be stable and consistent. Nobody wants the rug pulled out from under their feet. Improve a romantic relationship by discussing major changes with your romantic partner before making them. Don’t quit a job without warning if it will stress your budget. Take care of your commitments in a reliable manner. Don’t leave your partner hanging when they’re counting on your help and support. Give to your romantic relationship what’s expected in return. There will be few disappointments.
Be open and honest.
Don’t lie about your feelings in order to spare theirs. Talk about feelings in such a way that nobody’s hurt by them. This is the person you love. Be gentle, open and honest with them, just as with a friend. Life is not a situation comedy. It is not funny to poke fun at your loved one. It hurts. Be careful how it’s said but always speak the truth. Improve a romantic relationship with honesty about the past as well. A romantic relationship should always be built on a foundation of truth, even when the truth is not pretty.
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