Do you know who you are? Not the statistics, but the core sum of who you are? When I was younger, I lived in fear. I battled anxiety and had low self-esteem. Forgiving others was easy, forgiving myself was impossible. Love myself? No, I barely tolerated myself. The question is, is it important to know, forgive and love yourself? Yes. Can anyone do it? Yes.
Look at yourself as though you were a separate person.What makes you tick? Money, religion, relationships? By your actions, thoughts and words you will know yourself. Be prepared to not like all that you discover. You may think you are better than other people, ask yourself how and why you came to that conclusion. Does this kind of thinking improve your life or those around you? If not, change your thinking. Know yourself. Ask the hard questions about yourself.
Forgiving others is a wonderful habit to get into. To truly forgive someone is to find a kind of peace and freedom that not too many things can surpass. Is it easy to forgive someone? No, sometimes its hard, you truly have to forgive them in your heart and mind and not just say the words and move on.
The same can be said for forgiving yourself. This means admitting that you have done wrong and need to forgive yourself. It’s much easier to see the wrong others do. Stop and think about your actions, words and thoughts in the past 6 months. Did you hurt someone? If so, you hurt yourself . Have you done things in your life and asked another person or God for forgiveness? Did you finish by forgiving yourself?
Forgiving yourself is one of the hardest things to do. After much effort I have mastered it. The trick? To mean it.
At first glance loving yourself might seem selfish. There is a big difference. Being selfish means you are all about you and to heck with anything or anyone else. Loving yourself means treating yourself with respect and the understanding that everyone is flawed. After facing and forgiving yourself, you learn to love the person that is left.
The saying that if you cannot love yourself, you won’t be able to love anyone else may be true. I have learned how to appreciate the person I am. I have flaws, I have a hard time being social and I am opinionated. I also have a sense of humor, love for all of Gods creatures and enjoy visiting with “forgotten” people. I have a fierce sense of loyalty to my friends, though few of them know it. I pray daily for my friends and for strangers that I don’t know. God gifted me with the need to do that. Yes, I have learned to appreciate and love myself. It’s a good relationship.
What good does knowing, forgiving and loving yourself do? Have you ever gotten to know someone and something happens and you have to forgive them or the relationship would end? Did you love that person? Was the person then a gift to you? Sure. Its the same thing when you know, forgive and love yourself. The person you end up with is someone you want to be around.