Your child’s self-esteem takes a beating every day. There are people all around him who knowingly or unknowingly try to make your child feel unworthy of the good things in his life. His friends may be jealous of his good grades or athletic abilities and try to make him feel bad because he is a good athlete or student. My son who was a very good student started to let his grades slip. When I asked him what’s going on, he replied, “Mom, nobody likes a nerd.”
It is the parents’ job to counteract the negativity our children face in the world every day. There are activities that can boost your child’s self-esteem that you can teach him to do on his own that will help counteract what the outside world tries to do to him.
The Mirror Game
One of the best activities for your child to do each morning while he’s getting ready for the day is the Mirror Game. Have him look in the mirror while he’s brushing his teeth or combing his hair and say positive statements to himself.
Have him tell himself that he’s an “A” student. Have him say that he is the best athlete on his team. Have him tell himself that he gets all of his homework and chores done every day. Stand behind him for one week while he plays this game and he’ll take it from there. Periodically ask him if he played the mirror game this morning.
Help your child counteract negativity during the day by creating a statement that he can remember to affirm his self-worth. A good basic statement can be, “I know who I am.”
Practice with him at home at unexpected times so that he will automatically counteract a negative statement with his positive statement. Whatever statement you adopt, make sure it is a self-affirming statement that is easy to remember.
The Positivity Game
Here is a fun game that will not only boost your child’s self-esteem but will also build his vocabulary. You and your child can play the game, or a room full of people.
Start out by picking a letter of the alphabet. Now pick a word beginning with the letter you chose that is a positive trait that describes the other person. For example, the letter “C” is chosen. You may pick the word “courteous” to describe the person. You can use the same letter until the choices are exhausted, or each player can choose a different letter.
This game also helps your child choose positive thoughts about himself and others. The focus moves from negativity to positivity. He will hear words that describe him that he may never hear from someone else.
The Mirror Game and the Positivity Game are just two fun ways to help your child build self-esteem. His world is programmed to make him feel unworthy of the good things in his life. You as a parent can counteract this negative programming by equipping your child with activities that he can use to build strong resistance to such negativity.