Growing up the oldest of four girls, there was never a question that my sisters and I would share rooms. In fact, I don’t remember being in a room by myself until I was in high school. At that point my parents decided to convert another room to my bedroom and so the two oldest of us girls got our own rooms for the duration of high school.
When I got married and became the step-parent to a young girl I didn’t really think much about room sharing because she was an only child in both households. My first daughter came along and we moved into a house with three bedrooms, one for each girl and the master bedroom. However, when my baby was six months old we found out there was another baby on the way. Suddenly, we were faced with either having the kids share a room, or buy a bigger house. We decided to have the younger two girls, who are 15 months apart in age, share a room.
The following is a list of benefits that many parents, including myself, have discovered when they made the decision to have their children share rooms.
Benefit #1: When they are young, your children will learn to fall asleep on their own much easier. Not only that, but once they are woken up at night, they will learn to fall back to sleep much more quickly.
Benefit #2: They will likely sleep, and wake, more peacefully knowing that they are not alone. When one of my girls wakes up in the middle of the night, I often hear them call gently to each other to make sure the other is there. Also, when they wake in the morning, they will usually talk to each other and play quietly until I get them for breakfast.
Benefit #3: Your children will likely develop a closer relationship as siblings. Many children who share a room spend time talking with each other about thoughts, feelings, and so on, especially once they are school aged. If the children are the same gender, they will share things with each other that they may not share with you. This will add stability to their lives and make your home a happy and healthy one.
Benefit #4: When they get out on their own, whether it is college or marriage, they will likely share a room with someone at some point. Sharing a room with a sibling is a great way for your children to adapt easily to either or both of these situations.
Benefit #5: It will save you money! Although there may be some differences of opinion as to the decorating of the room as your children get older, there are many lessons to be learned in compromise there. Unless your children are of different genders, they can successfully share a room for their entire young lives and be better for it.