Many boomerang children who move back in with their parents enjoy a wonderful relationship with their family and find it a smooth transition, but not all. Some boomerang children find that moving back into their parents’ home a struggle as they face some unexpected obstacles.
Treated like a Child
Boomerang children who have decided to move back home, whether voluntarily or not, will often find that time has not moved on for their parents. Instead of treating them like mature adults in the 10 years since they moved out, some parents forget that their children are all grown up and resort to treating their adult children in a condescending manner if they are late for dinner and checking up on them if they return home later than they had hoped. Of course, parents will always worry about their children, regardless of their age. However, boomerang children have already sacrificed a lot to return home. Some have had to give up a home of their own, leave friends behind as well as a well paying job. It can seem like a big let down for boomerang children if they are treated like children by their parents once they return home.
Stunted Social Life
Reasonable parents will not want to stifle the independence of their adult children and will want to encourage them to pursue an active social life. But some do not make it easy for their children to have a social life and will want to know who their friends are, where they are going and when they will be coming home. This is perfectly acceptable if the children in question are very young or are teenagers. But adult children who are living at home can find it embarrassing to answer the same questions about their friends and social life that they did 15 years ago!
It can be hard for boomerang children who feel that they must always explain themselves to work colleagues, friends and extended family members. Some are quick to judge and will wonder why a 30-year-old woman is still living at home with her parents. Is she too lazy to work? Does she expect her parents to raise her children and pay her bills? Many of the assumptions that society makes about boomerang children is unjust.
Boomerang children will have the comfort and security of being back home with their parents amongst familiar surroundings. However, many boomerang children face a lot of obstacles when they first move back home, even if the arrangement is just temporary until they find somewhere else to live. Some boomerang children are treated like children by their well meaning parents; others find it a struggle to establish a social life; while still others are judged harshly about their decision to move back in with their parents.