I have found that when things go wrong, women and men tend to blame their mate for being a liar, cheater, etc. No one wants to take responsibility for the part they played in their own drama. It’s always the other person’s fault. That is so childish. Working hard and having dedication is not taking responsibility for our emotional welfare. That’s taking care of our Financial Welfare. These are two separate things. We need to grown up and start taking responsibility for our lives and stop throwing blame. Blame keeps us in a victim mode and that’s not where we want to be. We want to be in a position of power. Power over our lives, power to dictate the kind of life we want to live and the power to steer it in the direction in which we want it to go. Unfortunately, some people love to complain about the wrong that others have done them. But the question is, where were you when the wrong was being committed? You were right there. So how can the other person continuously do you wrong and be blamed for it if you are right there helping to begin with. This means that you are an active participant. STOP PARTICIPATING!!!
What do you expect to get when you lower your standards and pick up a man who is not on par with you? And then you complain about his attitude. You need to examine yourself and figure out why you need to lower your standards. Are you that desperate for a relationship and a man that you need to just jump on the first thing that walks by? I’m sick and tired of hearing women complaining about not finding a good man, when their lives and expectations for their own selves is out of sync. This man is being exactly who he is as when you first met him. Did you take time out to get to know him on a deeper spiritual level or did you just take him at face value? Have you worked on your own personal development before you begin to look for a mate to settle down with? Has he?
Find the good within yourself before you try to find it with someone else. If all you are finding are no good men, you need to turn that microscope inward and start to analyze what you really want for your life and what about you is attracting those kinds of men. Nothing is wrong with the men that you are finding, they are just a reflection of how you think of yourself and how you see yourself. Women just like men need to grow up and stop being little girls and little boys and step into the world of Adulthood. If the man in your life is no good, walk away and begin to reassess your choices and thought process. I can assure you that once you start to take stock in yourself you will recognize areas in which you need to work on and it is only then and after, not before, that you will start to see the outward reflection of the good that is in you. Stop pointing blame at the other person. Always remember that when you point a finger, you have three more pointing back at you.
“[i][i]Be the change that you want to see in the world” (or in your life)…Mahatma Ghandi[/i]
