So you open the mail to find out that you have been invited to some type of party. For whatever reason you are not overly thrilled about the party invitation. In fact, you have already decided that you don’t want to go. The problem is that you really don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. So how can you tactfully turn down a party invitation? Below you will find some tips and suggestions on how you can turn down an invitation without offending anyone or hurting anyone’s feelings.
The first suggestion is to write a nice note back. On most invitations it will say to RSVP as to whether or not you will be able to make it. If it is a wedding or a baby shower that would require a gift, I have often found it to be a good idea to send a note with a gift to the person throwing the party. In the note you do not need to give any reason as to why you can not make. All you have to say is that you are sorry that you can not attend and have sent a gift to be given to the individual on the day of the party. You can also include a nice card for the recipient of the gift. This way the person will still know that you care, and will not be offended by you not attending the party.
Another suggestion is to of course take the time to call the hostess and let them know that you appreciate them inviting you, but can not make it. When you call you can expect the individual to ask you why you can not attend. If you are uncomfortable giving an exact reason, you can simply say that you just can’t make it that day and leave it at that. You will want to avoid making up any strange stories about why you can not make it. If you are being invited than it is obvious that you are considered a friend. If they are truly your friends they will understand and appreciate that you took the time to let them know you can not make it.
You can also offer to help by dropping off a food item the day before the party of picking up a few items and dropping it off. If you can not attend the party this does not mean that you can not contribute in some way. This way even if you are not at the party, you will still have added something to it. The hostess will appreciate this even though they will not have your company on the day of the party.
Remember that when you are unable to attend a party, don’t just throw away the invitation and leave it at that. You will want to be tactful, but let the hostess know you can’t make it. Doing this will help to ensure that you keep your list of friends.