I remember having a young significant other and being a happy couple. You feel ready to take on the world and celebrate your love for each other every Valentine’s Day on February 14th. But then the tides turn against you and your significant other leaves you or vice versa for some asinine reason. Maybe he/she broke it up because of you discovered his/her infidelity. Maybe he/she broke it up before you could discover his/her infidelity. Maybe he/she found better opportunities and left you to pursue them. Or maybe he/she simply got bored with the whole relationship thing and joined the church.
Whatever the reason, as February 14th looms ahead, you realize that you have to pay the piper and feel depressed for being single on this “special” day celebrating couples. Or you could be a rational thinker and conclude that you are just as single on February 14th as you were on February 13th and may still be just as single on February 15th. In any way you want to take the news, you might as well have just as much fun or more fun than those couples on Valentine’s Day. Here are some suggestions to have fun and celebrate anti-Valentine’s Day.
Most activities are recommended for people over 21 years of age. Please note that some of these suggestions may result in annoying couples, arguments, injury, arrest, or even death. Know the risk.
Try something new, exciting and risky.
Being in love increases blood flow and adrenaline. Being single means having no one to reciprocate the loving feeling so alternative means of getting those desired effects are needed. Come Valentine’s Day, why not go skydiving or bungee jumping? Either activity will get the adrenaline pumping and there is no significant other trying to dissuade you or calling you an idiot for trying this. Or for something just as exciting but potentially more useful, take flying lessons. Piloting a small plane brings such a rush. It is definitely more exciting than what those couples having dinner on Valentine’s Day and you will have a story to tell the day after that is completely safe for work.
Go see a horror movie.
It seems Hollywood is starting to notice that not everyone, especially single people, wants to watch a cheesy romantic comedy or cheesier romantic drama during Valentine’s Day. To cater to those audiences, some studios release horror films around Valentine’s Day. 2009 brings in “Friday the 13th” and “My Bloody Valentine” during this holiday (though “MBV” comes out a little too early in my opinion). There is nothing like a good scare to get the adrenaline pumping and forget about being single. There may be a few couples in the audience who use the horror film as an excuse to jump into each other’s arms during the frightening moments. But they are easy to spot in the theater and then you can have fun with them. Sneak up to a couple and startle them by dropping a prop severed limb on their laps (available in most costume or party shops). Then laugh as they get scared or annoyed at your disturbance.
Host a party.
Call up several friends not doing anything on Valentine’s Day. Order some food, drinks, and other refreshments. Hire entertainment like a new garage band, a stripper, or whatever suits your fancy. Now dub this party as a celebration of something unrelated to Valentine’s Day. Celebrate a job promotion. Celebrate a successful bungee jump or sky dive. Celebrate taking up flying lessons. I know someone who celebrates her birthday on Valentine’s Day every year because she was born on February 14th. Thanks to the Internet and social networking sites like Myspace and Facebook, you can easily upload pictures and footage of your party and show off to the people who could not attend your party because they had the obligation to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Just do not get too preoccupied uploading party footage and neglect actually enjoying the party.
True, dancing is usually an activity for couples. But at social dance clubs where swing, waltz, and Latin dances reign, the point of the dancing is to socialize. Men and women will make themselves available to anyone for a dance and a chat. It is a great way to meet someone new who may or may not be single. You also get some exercise and learn a few dance moves. One of my social dance instructors states that a man who knows how to dance does not stay single for long. So find a dance studio holding a social dance and waltz, tango, and swing the night away.
If you want to follow the path of the depressed, drown out your sorrows on Valentine’s Day in good old fashioned alcohol. Grab a few single friends, arrange a designated driver or public transit system ride back home, and pound the pavement to hit the downtown bars. Who knows? You might run into some other single people and make a new connection and turn this bar hop into a party. Just remember to drink responsibly (take note of the previously mentioned plans for going home) and try not to get you or others arrested or killed.
In the worst case scenario, if you do get arrested for intoxication, you should have access to a phone allowing you to call your lawyer, bondsman, and anyone else you can think of while waiting for those two. Chances are if you are drunk coming into jail, you may take advantage of your intoxication and free phone to call your ex to rant and ruin his/her Valentine’s Day. It is not exactly honorable, but it is a memorable way to celebrate anti-Valentine’s Day.
The main focus of my versions of anri-Valentine’s Day is to have fun and not focus on being single. Use this as an opportunity to try something or someone new.