Why is it that so many guys my age just don’t look good? I mean, the older you get, the more you’re supposed to realize that you need to take better care of yourself. So many guys I come across in my age group just aren’t appetizing in the looks department.
I hate to sound shallow, but looks are important, at least to me. Physical attraction is the first thing that sparks any attention between potential mates. It’s what urges someone to make the first move, to say hello.
So I’ve noticed in my few short months of singledom that there’s a lot of potential guys out there for me, but they’re either unattractive or unattainable. There are some eligible guys out there in my age group who do look good. They just don’t want guys their own age.
I recently came across an ad on an online “dating” site:
“Is there such a thing as a date anymore? It seems like all that’s left are little pretend dates just to hook up and then say goodbye and leave with a handshake. I don’t have anything against hooking up and I may be guilty of it occasionally, but doesn’t anyone want more?”
Yes I want more! The guy had a sweet face, but his next paragraph just ruined it for me:
“Please. If you are over 40, DO NOT message me. If you happen to message me and I don’t respond, and then you message me again, and still no response- please take a hint and just stop! Repetitive messages are not going to suddenly make me interested! It is really quite annoying.”
This guy was 45 years old! Good looking, seemingly romantic and definitely someone to catch my interest. But I’m just above the cutoff line. I’m too old for him. I wouldn’t dare make a contact, especially with the big DO NOT in there. And he’s not the only worthy guy out there my age who’s appealing, yet isn’t available to guys like me. They all seem to want someone younger than them, younger than me!
I feel like I’m at an awkward age, a second puberty of sorts where I’m in between the more stable and surer stages of my life. I’m a little too old to be in the realm where the guys are still fit and decent looking. Yet I’m too young to just settle for anybody who shows interest.
Do I seem shallow? Maybe…but it’s hard to give a guy a chance if there’s no attraction there. Besides, one thing I’ve learned in my forty-plus years of life is that keeping fit and looking good are all important, especially with each year. So I make an effort to keep myself in shape. All I ask is the same from potential partners. Is that too much to ask?