Regardless of whether you actually make a New Year’s Resolutions or not, new years bring reflection. Usually it is a reflection of the year and whether it went badly or not, but also we tend to have ideas of how we would like the next year to go. I myself have decided that there are five things that I want for this new year. Here they are.
1. A Bottomless cup of coffee.
I know some of you out there can not stand the thought of coffee, but for you who do drink it you know exactly what I mean. I never drank coffee before I had kids. Now I cannot imagine a day without it. I think I remember one day when I tried to make it without coffee…..yea big mistake. The bonus is that now they are saying coffee may actually be good for you. Tomorrow that may change,but for now we are good to go. I suppose any caffinated beverage would work, but for me it would be coffee. I love to get up in the morning(if I am lucky before my two kids do) and watch the news or read a good book and sip on some coffee. ( I am realizing that I sound really old) Anyway, there is something about it that gets your motor running and gets you ready for the day in the life of two kids under five. In my view this is an absolute necessity of the New Year.
2. A Better Sense of Humor.
My three year old son has a sense of funny that I really do understand. I am that person that would love to catch your fall on video. You would think then that I would have a better sense of humor about things my son pulls. Usually I do, after the fact. One that comes to mind is the day I had just come in from the grocery store. My three month old daughter(at the time) was crying because she wanted to eat. I had just managed to get the groceries toted to the house, when my van alarm went off.(at least I thought it was my van) Quickly I grabbed my keys and hit the button to turn off the alarm. Suddenly the air was filled with an even louder alarm. That’s when I realized the first alarm had been my husband’s truck. (he was out of town) Now I had turned on the vans alarm. I tried then to turn off the van alarm, but hit the wrong button and the side doors on my van started opening. Panicking, I hit the next button which opened the trunk of the van. So now my van is looking like its getting ready to take flight, the truck alarm and lights are still flashing, my infant is screaming, and I am hopping around like mad woman walking on hot coals. My son, of course, was thrilled with the whole thing, absolutely amazed that one little push of a button could cause so many great reactions. Now, looking back at it, it is quite funny but at the time I did not have such a sense of humor.
3. More Patience
This goes hand in hand with the sense of humor thing. I really was a very patient person before I had kids. Now it is a real struggle somedays to find that little virtue. I believe it is a work in progress and if I get a better sense of humor then I am certain more patience will follow. It is so hard sometimes to be patient enough to let your child do stuff on their own so that they can learn how or how not to do things. Inevitably when they insist on doing things themselves it is not the best timing for us. How hard it is to be patient or calm in the face of a screaming child, especially when the meltdown is over something so minute in our world. And then there are days that I find myself just needing a break or time to myself and those days are really hard to be patient. So, it is a work in progress and something I have to work on every day of this new year and beyond.
4. A House Cleaning Fairy.
There seem to be two extremes with household duties. One side says cleaning can wait, enjoy your children while you can. The other would be appalled by anything less than spotless(I think those are the ones that have someone to do it for them or are very organized….two things I am not) Some how I want a happy medium. I feel like I am chasing the house cleaning tail. Although I do make my son clean up his messes, it is still amazing how much mess one little guy can make. When you are breast feeding 6 times a day on top of that ,..well it is hard to feel like I get anything done. I feel good if I get a few loads of laundry finished and manage to get the living room picked up before my husband gets home. Oh I generally get a few other things done, but they feel so little that it seems like I have done nothing all day long. Plus, I do try to spend a lot of time with my kids. I have found that if I don’t my son invents ways to be entertained. Those never have good results and usually involve more cleaning. So, I have decided if I could have a house cleaning fairy for the New Year(because I can’t afford to hire someone) that would be swell.
5. More Time.
Sounds like a silly thing to want this year, yet it is a valid wish. On one hand if I were more organized I am sure that would give the allusion of more time, but it is not really the whole of it. I mean that I know my kids are growing so fast. Time gets away more every year and they will have their own lives before you know it. Already my son no longer has many baby attributes. Still the sweetest thing I hear is,” Mom, your my best.” and I know it won’t be long before that sweet little whisper is a memory. I know my baby girl will be crawling soon and that will be the end of holding still for mom to hold her much any more. I am blessed to be able to stay home with them while they are small. That alone gives me more time than some and still it is not enough.(now ask me this at the end of the day and I might not see it this way) I read something somewhere where it talks about “quality time” being misleading. It say that they have rarely heard a kid talk about how much they missed “quality time” they just want your time. It really is as simple as that. Whether you stay at home or work your kids just want your time. We get so caught up in taking them here and there to be “socialized” and because we feel guilty, that we have lost the art of spending time with each other. My sweetest memories are of spending time with my parents. Infact, I used to get so irritated at my mom because she insisted on family time. I thought I had better things to do. She used to pick out a book from the library and we would all sit around the table. She would read a chapter or two at night. I would get really annoyed because I was a teenager then and had better things to do, but now it is one of my favorite memories. We read some great books: Anne of Green Gables, Where The Red Fern Grows, Summer of The Monkeys just to name a few. So it doesn’t matter how much time we have, it doesn’t matter if it’s “quality time” our kids just want our time. So, I would like to find ways to make more time for my family.
These are just a few things that top my list of things I want for the New Year. I’m sure there are many more, but if I get these accomplished I will feel very proud of myself.