It’s not news that there are some people in this country who would like to say that marriage should be allowed between two people that love each other. There are those that say gay marriage should be allowed. There are those who say that loving someone is a reason to tear down the institution of marriage, to do away with the very idea of marriage, totally redefine what marriage is, to change the very meaning of marriage. That said, just what is marriage and who is qualified to be allowed to marry?
Voters in California recently voted against allowing same sex couples to be allowed to participate in marriage, overturning an earlier ruling that was allowing gay couples to be allowed to enter into a marriage. People immediately screamed “wrong”, “not fair”, “discrimination”, “equal rights”, etc.
Just why are some people so upset that gays and same sex couples are not being allowed to get married? Some are saying they don’t have the same rights as heterosexuals. Sure they have the same rights. Adults have the right to marry. The problem is what they are doing, what they are living, that simply is not what marriage is. They want the rest of us to accept it as something to call marriage. But it’s not.
Marriage is and always has been the union of one man and one woman. Anything else is not defined as marriage, nor can it be defined as marriage.
- Mark 10:6, But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
- Mark 10:7, For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;
- Mark 10:8, And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
- Mark 10:9, What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Marriage is a sacred union between a male and a female, and the sanctity of marriage is holy. For some people to be offended that their gay lifestyle is not what a marriage consists of is simply nonsense. If a woman wants to marry, find a man wishing to marry her. If a man wants to marry, find a woman wishing to marry him. It’s that simple. Marriage is between a man and a woman, holy and sanctified. Anything else is not marriage, cannot be marriage, and is not called holy nor is it called sanctified.
Some would use the argument that they love the person, and that because they love the person, they should be allowed to marry the one they love. That is a very weak argument for gay marriage. If we are allowed and able to marry anyone we choose, of legal age, then what is to stop us from marrying our own family members… our children… our friends… our best friends… our nieces and nephews, our parents or step-parents… our in-laws… etc.
Most of us know that loving someone deeply and caring for someone deeply doesn’t mean we have sex with the person or persons, nor do we marry them. Most of us understand that loving someone very much means exactly that, that we love them very much. It doesn’t mean that we want to have sex with everyone we love deeply, and it certainly doesn’t mean we want to form a union and try to call it marriage.
What gays do and the lifestyle they lead is their business if it isn’t hurting anyone else. But when gays wants to try to make that union into marriage, then the problem begins. There is no marriage when the two that wish to call it that are the same sex. That simply has never been marriage, isn’t a marriage today, and will never be a marriage. This is not discrimination against anyone. This is simply the way things are. Marriage is a union between one man and one woman, and anything else is not a marriage.
The sanctity of marriage is holy. The union between a man and woman is holy before God. He says in His Word what marriage is. While some will be offended that they cannot live a gay lifestyle and get married, they will simply have to remain offended or get out of that lifestyle and find someone to marry, someone of the opposite gender… what a marriage is.
The fact is that any adult has the right to marry, to enter into a marriage, to enjoy the sanctity of marriage, to live a married life. So the argument that gays don’t have the same rights as heterosexuals doesn’t fly whatsoever. Love who you want to love, care for who you want to care about, and sleep with who you want to sleep with. But don’t expect the majority of this country to accept that lifestyle as eligible for marriage when that lifestyle involves two members of the same sex. Don’t expect to be able to enter that lifestyle into a marriage. That isn’t a marriage, it’s not holy, it’s not sanctified.