Friendship by it’s very nature, dictates a certain code of honorable behavior between individuals involved in the relationship. While each person has their own perspective of what appropriate behavior is, it is usually a mutual show of respect and concern for the well-being of the other person. Within the framework, there are definite do and don’t rules that are unspoken, but are steadfast nonetheless, and cannot be ignored if the relationship is to blossom and continue.
Most friendships are formed initially through sharing of similar circumstances and experiences, and eventually develop into each person knowing what is offensive to the other’s perspective. Showing disrespect to a friend’s way of life, personal relationships, or choices in lifestyle is a certain way to lose a friend quickly. Verbally expressing displeasure of a friends family is another certain relationship killer. The failure to communicate openly and honestly is a fine line, and should be tempered with the use of appropriate non-offensive wording.
Each individual entering into a friendship has unique expectations, but there are common threads woven into the fabric of all productive relationships. Decency, honesty and shared personal values are the foundation upon which friendships are built, and without these a perceived friendship is false and will not last. Favors must be exchanged in kind, and without keeping score who has done the most for the other person. Concern and devotion come forth willingly, because the affection between the two people is genuine.
Most importantly, a friendship is a union of two like-minded people who have common interests, values, and perspective on the World. Each individual have the best interest of the other at heart, even at the risk of their own well-being. While this may seem contrary to human nature, it transcends what is normal, in that it is based upon emotion and loyalty that is often earned over years. A true friendship can survive any situation, regardless of the amount of duress to the participants. Both friends are secure in the knowledge that they can count on the other for assistance and support at a time when the rest of the World turns their back upon them.
Every friendship has an ebb and flow in the relationship, where for a brief period on person gets more than they give. The tides eventually turn and things even out over time. When a friendship becomes a one-way giving only event, it is time to seriously consider removing the other person from your life. While this is not an easy thing emotionally, in the long run you’ll benefit greatly from the experience.