Valentine’s Day is approaching. What does that mean? It means it is time to shower your honey with gifts and eagerly accept the gifts they shower upon you. It is time to share a special meal, go out for a night on the town or cuddle up in front of a movie. It is a day to share with your sweetie, unless, *gasp* you don’t have a sweetie.
If you are sans sweetie then Valentine’s Day may have an entirely different meaning. It may be a vomit inducing day, as you witness couples pour syrupy sweet affection all over each other. They speak to each other with stupid pet names, “I love you Schmoopy!” They rudely exchange gifts or gropes right in front o f you. You roll your eyes and realize that with all the stupid people out there it is no wonder you’ve yet to find the right person.
Whatever your reason is for being single, it is nothing that should get you down. You’re strong, independent and you don’t need some Schmoopy messing things up and giving you some useless materialistic trinket as an expression of love. Yay! A stuffed gorilla holding a red rose! A giant box of chocolates! What a great way to negate all the hours I’ve put in on the treadmill. Instead of feeling down or disgusted, make February 14thyour day by celebrating Anti Valentine’s Day.
How do you go about celebrating Anti-Valentine’s Day? You could choose your least favorite couple and leave a brown paper bag of burning Valentine’s wishes on their porch. Or you could pick an ex and lovingly decorate his front yard with pink toilet paper. If that is the route you wish to take I’m not going to stop you. There is good fun to be had and such activities can be quite cathartic. However, I think Anti-Valentine’s Day should be less about lashing out and more about celebrating you.
Instead of relying on someone else to spoil you with affection and great gifts, do it for yourself. How you choose to do this is entirely up to you. Who knows you better than you do? Get creative and be good to yourself. Here are five ideas for celebrating yourself on Anti-Valentine’s Day.
*Food. Any celebration or event is about food. Of course, booking a table at the swanky restaurant you’ve been waiting to try probably isn’t a good idea on your Anti-Valentine’s Day. If being around lovey dovey couples turns your stomach, then you probably don’t want to eat under the same roof.
Instead of going out, order in. Maybe it’s just me but I love ordering in and popping in a movie. I can throw on my rattiest sweats and oldest t-shirt and scuff around in my stinky slippers. Who is the wiser? If cooking is something you enjoy then maybe try a new recipe.
If you would rather have company then maybe invite a friend who is also into celebrating Anti-Valentine’s Day. You can agree to wear your jammies or maybe for fun you can both get dolled up just to flirt with the delivery guy and to feel sexy while you eat take out and watch Superbad for the 50th time.
*Treat yourself to something nice. Buy yourself flowers. Splurge and buy those shoes you’ve had your eye on. Go all out and finally get Rock Band for the Wii and invite your best rockin’ friends over to jam the heck out of Anti-Valentine’s Day. You’re special and deserve to be spoiled every once in awhile. Who better to do that than you?
*Pamper yourself. This can be as simple as drawing yourself a nice bubble bath or as elaborate as spending the day and night at a spa retreat. There are, of course, all the things that fall in between. Go get your hair done, or get a mani-pedi. The point is to do something that makes you feel special, sexy and fabulous. Because we all know you do not need a significant other in order to feel that way.
*This idea might not appeal to everyone. I think it is a good idea because I happen to think a great way to celebrate you is by helping others. You might not have a man or woman in your life but there is someone out there that you care about. Acknowledge them on Anti-Valentine’s day. Do you have nieces and nephews? Shower them with gifts or take them to a movie. Spend the day with a grandparent or someone else who is special to you.
This is also a good opportunity to volunteer. Seek out opportunities in your area where you can spend time with people who are alone. Volunteer at a senior center. Read books to kids. Volunteer at an animal shelter. Make the day truly meaningful.
*Party! This last idea is so simple that I’m sure you’ve already considered it. Throw an Anti-Valentine’s day party. Invite people you know who are single. Get creative, think of a theme. It can be anything. You can do the whole black clothing, black roses, anti love songs playing in the background kind of thing. Or you can go in a completely different direction. The point is to surround yourself with awesome friends and have a good time.
So there you have it. Those are just a few ideas for celebrating Anti Valentine’s Day. Of course, you can mix and match a few of those. Before I leave you so you can start planning your Anti-Valentine’s Day let me share a thought. There are couples out there who are genuinely happy. The do exist. However, it is my belief that those are not the couples you see celebrating Valentine’s Day. They don’t have to because they appreciate each other all year long. They do little things for each other all year. They don’t need one day designated by corporate greed.
The couples who use Valentine’s Day to make a huge show of their feelings are probably not all that content or happy. If they were would they really need to go all out on this one day to prove something to their supposed sweetie? Happy people are content in their happiness and don’t feel the need to flaunt it or make a huge production.
So, when you hear your coworker baby talking on the phone with her boyfriend, telling him how excited she is to go to dinner later, remember that she isn’t as happy as she wants you to believe. She’ll probably dump the dude in another month or two anyway and you can add one more person to your guest list for next year’s rockin’ Anti-Valentine’s Day party.