10: Complain a little less. A roommate I once had was one of the most negative, depressive, and dysfunctional human beings I have ever met. When she spoke, she could only converse on what bad had happened to her, and this eventually infected me. So consider, if you only focus on the negative and constantly return to these subjects you will never be able to accept happiness. Not to mention that your negativity is affecting those around you to the point that they will either drift away from you or you will perpetuate your own sadness via your friend’s new found negativity. Life isn’t really that bad or hard unless you make it out to be, so if you can forgive and move on from the bad, life will naturally feel better.
9: Remember your happiest moments. This brings us to number 9. While you aren’t dwelling on how you tripped up the stairs today, you can remember when you were the happiest. On occasion, just think of a time when you felt so good inside you could have burst. When you remember that, you will return to those feelings. You will be as happy as you felt then.
8: Remember that the only achievement you have to make is existing. When you compare yourself to other, you begin to think that the only aspect of you that makes you a worthwhile human being is what you produce and your effects on others. In reality, what makes you great is that you know how to live life. That you know how to be happy and make other’s happy as well.
7: Sing in the car. Loudly. And without reserve. It’s letting loose without harming anyone. Enough said.
6: Find a friend that comforts you. There are friends that make you happy, and then there are friends whose very proximity can calm you down from anything. Having these friends can help you to de-stress automatically and do it more effectively than any medications or remedies. Cultivating these friendships and helping them understand the effect they have on you can help enhance the stress relief and your friendship.
5: Create a piece of art. Just expressing yourself whether it’s a painting or poetry or a story can produce a piece you can be proud of and that you can show off to others. Not to mention that the mental process it takes you to do as such is so rewarding and cathartic. Plus, you may pick up a passion or hobby you may have never considered before.
4: Hug more. Hugs are one of the most enjoyable pass times I can think of. In fact, I have been converted to the power of hugs, for when I was much younger, I didn’t want people touching me, let alone hugging. I felt that someone hugging me was an invasion of my personal space, but I have found that sometimes there is nothing better than a hug. Nothing makes you feel more wanted or loved than a good hug. The kind where the person squeezed you and squeezes all of your disappointment and anxiety in that one hug. It helps you remember your connection with your friends and how much you are loved.
3: Laugh so hard you cry. Not only does this burn those ever hated calories, but it’s the second best feeling to an orgasm. When you reach that point that you can’t control yourself anymore and the joy of the moment surrounds you, there is nothing better than letting loose and knowing that there are people and parts of this life that can make you that happy.
2: Take some guilt free leisure time. There is nothing wrong with it, though many think there is. Trying to fill you life with constant busy work is a waste of your time. You are not proving anyone and most likely will only wear yourself out, but if you can take a little time to appreciate the world around you, what is important becomes clearer. And what is most important is different for everyone, so you need time to figure out what that is for you.
1: Defend yourself. Most likely, your motives were good and your plans merely didn’t work out. So when someone takes their rage out on you unjustifiably, you have a right to defend yourself. You have a right to not believe that you are always wrong. You have a right to not feel guilty. I have learned this recently, and so when I started actually standing up for myself, I couldn’t believe that good it was doing. I am able to resolve arguments better and to receive my rights.
Over all, none of these are particularly difficult, but they can all make major changes to your life. If you live your live how you want and be happy doing it, you will never have to worry about the pressure to loose weight or whichever your normal resolution may be. Live your live how you are happiest and allow others to be happy, too.