In the first essay about pregnancy I touched on some very important topics about sickness, and pains, and a little about the hormones. This article is going to touch on some of the feelings and different emotions that you will be going through, and how to help you try to cope with your ever changing body.
The first and most infamous feeling that you will be dealing with is the dependency feeling. You will go through a feeling that you need your partner. You will definitely have the upset and tired feelings, but mostly a feeling of dependency upon your lover. If you have parted with your lover and have found another, then you will go through a feeling that you can’t be without them. You will clean and cook like never before, and try to please them anyway that you can. Things that upset you will hit you harder and you’ll work to try to forgive more. Whatever you do in this phase try your best to calm your hormones. The worst thing that you can do at this point would be to try to give into those feelings. You have to realize that even though you want to please your lover, things will get a lot rougher once you have the baby. You will no longer have the dependency feeling that you have now, but you will have a feeling of closeness with the baby. Instead of all the attention going to your lover after you have the child it will be going to the newborn baby, and you have to prepare your lover for this.
Which brings me to the step that is involving your lover in all of your appointments, schedules, classes, and everything else as much as possible. You want your lover to be just as involved as you because if not then they will feel like you don’t have enough time for them after the baby is born which can lead to jealousy of the child. Your lover will feel attention starved and unworthy of time with you, no matter what you do you need to try your hardest to spread your attention to everyone that is in your family. You need to still pay attention to your lover, while taking care of your child all along. Set back some time for your significant other and you to relax. A great time for this is during naptime or during playtime. A healthy relationship with your spouse will reflect positively upon the child.
However, when you are pregnant you will have pains. The pains can go from a simple pain to a sharp pain that you will feel reliantly. This is simply a way of your body coping with the baby that you are carrying. Your organs are going to be moving around rather rapidly and then when you’re around 8 months the baby will be pressing on your bladder from being fully grown. That’s where the going to potty happens about 28 times a day. Now if the pains are long lasting then you need to consult your doctor. Another way to tell if the pains are serious is that if you can carry on a conversation without stopping while the pains are going on then you don’t need to worry. If the pains get to where you are holding your breath, or you truly feel that you need to consult your doctor than you need to go. If you are having pains that seem a little rougher than they should then consult your doctor. Try your best to wait a little while and then consult your doctor, to see if the pain subsides by itself. The normal pains only last a few seconds if it proceeds then consult your physician immediately. However, at your next doctor’s appointment make sure to tell them about it. If there is ever a time when you feel that you need to see a doctor than by all means go. Pains should happen but nothing that is truly hurtful enough for you want to contact your doctor. If the pains do not stop soon make sure to contact your doctor immediately. If there is any cramping or anything like that you must consult your doctor. Make sure always to be careful because you are carrying a precious package.
After the baby arrives you will be going through many mixed emotions, which I will touch more on in my next essay. I’ll just cover the basics now. You will be going through a worrying period where you can sleep. Now you will feel kind of secluded because you did have a baby in your belly and now the baby is in the crib. So you are going to be around them very much and having trouble sleeping without them. Although I do need to stress the most important part of being a newfound parent, which is, when the baby sleeps you sleep. I cannot stress that enough if the baby takes a nap you need to also because if not your going to be feeling rather rough later on. Make sure your body is as up as it possibly can be. And in all reality you will be much more concerned with the baby than you are with yourself, but truth be told you can’t take care of someone else if you can’t take care of yourself. If you ever go through feelings of vindictiveness or pain or sadness around the baby consult your physician because it could be possible that you are going through the “baby blues” as they call it. Post partum depression affects a lot of mothers, and you need to make sure that you consult a physician if you have any of the warning signs which can be found at your doctor’s office. I will be touching more on some vital topics of the duration of pregnancy in another essay so be sure to keep watch. The bad was yet forgotten when I touched that little hand.