Most among us owe a debt we can never repay completely, to our parents for their tireless efforts on behalf of their children. We should care for our parents as they cared for us – when we were vulnerable and unable to care for ourselves, they placed their personal desires aside and went to great lengths to ensure our safety and prosperity. Their personal sacrifice to forgo their wants and needs in the best interest of their children should be an example we, as their children, should attempt to emulate closely. We should care for our parents because they taught us the value of family, decency and honor, and express great concern for our parents is a demonstration that their efforts were not wasted.
We should care for our parents not only to repay the debt we owe them, but to also set a good example for our children. To view a parent caring for a Grandparent with love and respect, children can learn wonderful lessons in expressing emotion, selflessness, and problem resolution. By caring for our parents our children can learn what wonderful people they are, and hopefully absorb some core values of a past generation that are lacking in society today.
We should care for our parents because we have a moral responsibility to do so, and not to disappear from their lives when they can no longer be of benefit to us. To ignore our responsibility is tantamount to theft – the theft of their love, concern, energy and devotion. We, as their children accepted these eagerly as gifts to use, not keep without returning in kind when the situation presents itself. The parent/child relationship is a mutually unspoken pact, to always be there for the other person.
From an objective vantage point, an individual who does not care for their own parents is, in my opinion, reprehensible. That person is merely an empty vessel in terms of depth and personal integrity, only concerned with their own selfish needs. These individuals possess a spirit of self-entitlement that is unsurpassed in scope within our society, and their “me first” attitudes are emotionally crushing to their ailing parents. In most cases, these people should stay away, because their lack of concern during visits only serve to make elderly parents disappointed at their efforts on behalf of such worthless people.
Lastly, we should care for our parents because it is our final gift to them. Caring for our parents is our last chance to show them their efforts and lives were not wasted, that a piece of them will survive their passing in the caring individuals they created.